Getting Married At 20?

Are you ready to tie the knot that that age? What if your boyfriend or some guy who’s been in love with you for a long time and he decide to pop the question to you? Or maybe it’s the other way round, that is, the girl herself who asks it first?

You definitely need to consider a few things first before saying ‘Yes! I’ll marry you!’

Money. Yes, money is important. Can your husband-to-be support you later when you tie the knot? What if you were to have children? It’s okay if your future husband is loaded or he’s already stable and has a steady income. But if both of you are still students and there’s no income coming in, then what would you do?

Studies. If one of you is studying, can you juggle marriage and books at the same time? My friend, who’s still in university, is going to get married. I’m curious as to how it’ll be. I’m really happy for her but I’m just curious. Has anyone else done this before?

Your parents. Do they approve of your marrying at such an early age? Now we think that getting married at 20 is way too early but in the olden days, girls got married when they were as young as 16 or younger! However, in modern days, it’s considered quite unusual if you got married too early probably because we don’t want to be tied down to one person too soon. Anyway, if your parents object, then you might need to sit them down and talk with them.

Is he/she The One? This is probably the most important thing that you need to give some thought to. Marriage is for life, if you haven’t realized yet. I was genuinely shocked and basically worried when my ex suggested that we registered. I must have really hurt his feelings by acting all too shocked. Heck, I’m still a student and my family didn’t even know about him. Well, that was the past anyway.

Love…marriage…it seemed so far away when I was younger. Now, we are all grown up. A close of friend of mine is going to get married. She’s the same age as me. We were friends since we were 12. Now she’s going to get married!

We’ve really grown up.

Gonna Shoot For The Moon

How long was it huh? Since the last time when I felt like the world was going to end? All thanks to one *special* guy!

Phooo...it's not like I'm 100% recovered or something, I'm still in the process of healing and recovering from...um, depression? Post-break-up trauma? Whatever it was, it still is.

My friends advised me to keep myself busy. Fine, I'll try to be busy but it's not enough to get rid of him from my mind AND also from my dreams! Even when we were still dating, I've never dreamt so much about him. And now he decides to appear in my dreams now that we've broken up. Great timing.

I'm trying to convince myself that he's way over me and has already moved on in life with the new girlfriend whom he may have already known only for 2 months now.

However, I have that stinking feeling that I'm waiting for something. What is it? A new guy to dance his way into my life? For him to call me and beg me to take him back? Before this, I keep saying to myself that something good will come out of this. Well, I'm probably waiting for that something *good* to happen. Whatever it is! And that it's better to wait for it patiently. Good things come to those who wait, you know. I'm still trying to believe it myself.

Wow, I wonder how many proverbs and sayings that I've gone through. It's a way to convince myself, that's all.

Wake Me Up!!!!!!!!!!!

Man, I really need somebody or a few people to slap me hard and scold me endlessly.

I'm a pathetic pile of crumbs. Even listening to music most of the time doesn't really help. I need to get an iPod or something. When I wake up, before I go to sleep, actually, most of the time, I keep thinking about him. Oh, please, please, please, get out of my damn mind!!!

Anyway, I've been listening to these songs!

1. Dance Inside - The All-American Rejects
2. Runaway - Avril Lavigne
3. The Potential Break Up Song - Aly & AJ
4. Don't Tell Me - Avril Lavigne
5. My Happy Ending - Avril Lavigne
6. Freak Out - Avril Lavigne
7. Shut Up - Black Eyed Peas
8. It's My Life - Bon Jovi
9. She's So High - Everclear
10. Too Little Too Late - JoJo
11. Don't Speak - No Doubt
12. Don't Look Back In Anger - Oasis
13. Stop & Stare - One Republic
14. Bounce - Sarah Connor
15. Dare You To Move - Switchfoot
16. Apologize - Timbaland feat. One Republic

Some of these songs are hard, loud, noisy and that's the way I like it now. The noisier, the better. I can blast them right in my ears and block out the whole world as well as reality.

Moving on is tough for me. My friends said I got to get myself together. Why waste time dreaming when he's out there enjoying with his new girl???

Oh my gosh. It is tough. I need to tell my friends to scold me as much as possible. I need to realize that he's so not worth it. Fickle-minded guy.

Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do

Picture from here

It's embarrassing that I'm in such a sad state right now. I have no mood to do anything. No mood to eat, no mood to read, no mood to watch TV, no mood to sleep (unless I'm feeling extremely drowsy), but luckily I still have the mood to blog. It seems that writing is a kind of special therapy. It helps the writer when she's depressed, sad, suffering from grief, etc. I started this blog because I was angry about 2 or 3 years ago. Guess I got my inspiration to write and it's all due to how I felt.

All right. Breaking up. I hate it. I've broken up many times with the same guy before. He's my first guy, by the way, and he always told me that we'd be forever. I was skeptical each time he said that. Well, looks like forever only lasted for 3 years. Yup, that's how long we've been together. We did break up a few times but always got back together. He would come begging me to take him back. He did beg me to take him back this time but I was not sure. He was the one who initiated the break up last Saturday!

I'm not the perfect girlfriend and I don't know what more he wants from me. He says that I don't love him enough or show concern for him. I'm not caring, loving, or understanding. Last Saturday, I felt like I've been kicked in the teeth when he told me that he's leaving me. That time was the time when I needed him most as something unfortunate had happened to me (I won't say what it was but it's really bad and sad). And he decided to dump me! Later, he claimed that he's drunk at the time and kept apologizing and begging me to accept him as my guy again.

I don't know, I don't know, I don't know what to do now. So far, we've only communicated via SMS and I don't think it's a good idea but I can't really meet him face to face now. There's no time for that. Communicating through SMS isn't that effective I think. It's slow and it's not really interpersonal.

I'll need to try to keep myself occupied and not think of him too often.

It's All So Complicated!

How would you define love? L-O-V-E.

What's love anyway?

You know, I'm really amazed at the old couples whom I see at the mall, the market, crossing the road, etc. How do they stay together for so long? It's even sweeter if they are holding hands when crossing the road, for example. I smile to myself when I see them. Then, I think if I'll ever have someone's hand to hold when I'm old myself. Truly, it's amazing.

What's their secret? How can they live with each other for so many years? I'm sure there are some fights here and there but they do make up, don't they? However, these days, divorce seems to be the only answer when the husband and wife fight. Why do they fight in the first place? Are they sick of each other? Are they bored of each other already? What's missing in their marriage?

Why am I writing this post? Well, I'm just thinking over about my relationship with my guy. We've been together for more than 2 years. But now I feel something different. I don't feel the love that he's always shown me last time. Are we falling apart or am I just being plain paranoid? I can't sleep thinking about this.

I know I shouldn't waste too much time pondering over this. Studies first, studies first, studies first, I keep telling myself. But, honestly, it's difficult!!!

Dating At A Young Age (Too Young Sometimes!)

Nowadays, younger and younger kids are busy in the world of dating. Crushes, heartbreaks, jealousy, and even infidelity. We thought love problems only occur when we are adults, when we are more mature, etc. That’s why it’s quite preposterous that kids as young as 11 are having boyfriends or girlfriends.

Yes, girls nowadays do mature faster than girls did many years ago. So, that’s probably why they get involved with all this stuff. I don’t know about boys though.

When I was 11, 12, I only listened to my friends talk about boys. Haha! I wasn’t into the latest music too. The only groups I heard of were Backstreet Boys and the Spice Girls. When my friend asked me who my favourite member of BSB was and I simply picked a guy in the picture. It happened to be Brian something. Well, most of them liked Nick Carter. He looked the most attractive among all of them but I wanted to be different so I just picked another fella without even knowing his name!

Then, when my batch entered secondary school, there was more talk about boys. Who’s cute and who’s not. Who’s nice and who’s nasty. Who went out with who, who broke up with who, etc.

Some people went for tuition to flirt, ogle at their crushes, etc. And I thought tuition was for studying. To learn more. To finally understand what they could not understand at school.

Anyway, kids in secondary school are quite old enough to know what they want. But, is it advisable for those still in primary school to date? Well, maybe they can still date but under parental supervision! I wonder who wants it.

Look at the Sweet Valley books. Jessica Wakefield is known as the twin who’s crazy for boys. 12 was the age she started dating, I guess. Which guy did she like, I don’t remember. I know that Elizabeth Wakefield was always going steady with Todd something.

In a way, the Sweet Valley books are bad influence. It depends on the reader though.

As for those young kids who are in a hurry to grow up, I hope they enjoy their childhood while there’s still time.

What if you and your loved one were separated?

Now that the STPM results are out, I have to think what course I want to study and which university to go to. Well, my dad has made his decision for me. I have to go to USM. It's fine with me anyway.

I know something is going to happen after my results. I know something will happen and it will make me hopelessly sad!

My guy and I might be studying at different places.

Yeah, it's horribly bad news to me. Just now, he told me he might be going to Johor or even Perlis! What places are those??? So damn far away from Penang. But, he has no choice I guess. He said he'll try to find the course he wants in Penang.

I don't know what to do. I don't know what to think. I know I can cry and that's it.

I am not in the mood now.

Life sucks.

Huh? This is my love style???

Your Love Style is Manic

For you, love is the ultimate rollercoaster And you love to hold on tight and enjoy the ride Every time you fall in love, it feels like the first time And while it's exciting and exhilarating...It's also stressful and scary!

What's Your Love Style?

9 Ways A Guy Can Make A Girl Happy

1. Shower her with compliments. Tell her she looks pretty in that dress or she smells nice (when she’s using perfume, of course or even when she's sweating and she really smells heavenly!).
   
2. Buy her presents. Give her things you know she will like. If you are broke, you can always give her something hand-made. She will surely appreciate the effort put into it. It’s the thought that counts, as the clichéd proverb goes.
   
3. Pamper her when she is sick.
   
4. Tell her you miss her and that you are thinking of her when both of you have not seen each other for a while. Even if it’s only for a few hours!
   
5. Hold her hand firmly when you are out together. Give her your full attention. Make as though she’s the only person you see although there are 100 other people around you.
   
6. Crack jokes to make her laugh.
   
7. Take her to lunch/dinner at her favourite eating outlet.
   
8. When you are across the room from her and both of you are talking with other people, steal glances at her. When both of you make eye contact, smile.
   
9. Say sorry when both of you are in a fight and it’s also clearly your fault. If it’s hers, wait for her to apologize. If she does not make the first move, you do it. This shows you really like her!
   

These are merely my opinions. Girls out there, please throw in some suggestions too!

9 Ways A Girl Can Make A Guy Happy

1. Know how to sweet talk
   
2. Know how to ambil hati [steal one's heart away (am I right?)]
   
3. Must be romantic
   
4. Good in kissing and making out
   
5. Must be patient and be able to discuss problems without making it worse
   
6. Know how to pujuk the guy and must be understanding
   
7. Must be hardworking
   
8. Cook delicious and scrumptious food
   
9. Be kind hearted and friendly
   

Real guys gave these reasons. And the ways are not only restricted to 9 only. I just like the number. If any guys out there would like to give your opinions too, go ahead and suggest more.

I find some of the ways very funny. Really, guys can be demanding too!

What Sign is my True Love?

Your True Love Is a Cancer

Why you'll love a Cancer: Cancer's loyal and sincere heart makes your own sensitive heart melt.Caring and devoted, a Cancer will take the lead in pursuing you - and not give up! Why a Cancer will love you: You're laid back enough to deal with Cancer's little mood swings and freak-outs.A fellow homebody, you know how to make Cancer comfortable and at home with you.

What Sign Is Your True Love?

Wow! I certainly, truly, completely did not expect this answer! My boyfriend is a Cancer!!! Ah!!!! What a total coincidence.

Online dating

I read in the newspapers yesterday that more and more young, attractive, and professional women are finding it difficult to get hitched with the perfect guy. According to what I read, it seems that 50% men who have the complete package are already married. 30% are gay. 10% are jerks. So there are only a pathetic 10% of good guys left for women out there.

Besides that, free dating services are also becoming more popular nowadays to help single and available people find their true love. JustSayHi.com is a free and effective online dating service offered for these lonely hearts.

If you’re looking for that special someone and still haven’t found yet, just drop in at the site and take a look around. When you are ready to get started, all you need to do is fill in your particulars at the site, describe a little something about yourself and wait for Mr./Ms Right to contact you!

Have a good time getting to know new people!



~A sponsored post~

Kissing: Part Two

I wish to continue from my previous post. Assume this is part 2 of my kissing post. =)

The website, which I went to suggested that we girls should dress right, smile, be friendly, and flirt in order to get a kiss. Am I right? Well, in my honest opinion, if we girls did all those things, I highly doubt that the boy would kiss us right away unless he was our boyfriend. We are not that straightforward in Malaysia. Heck, kissing in public is already against the law! Even if it’s only a small peck on the cheek given by a husband to his wife. It’s a different story if a couple was lip locking passionately in public. They should seriously get a room. Not a good view.

However, kissing can’t be all that wonderful since there is a kissing disease called mononucleosis.

Mononucleosis or mono can be spread through kissing because saliva is shared between the kissers. If you kiss someone who is infected with this disease, chances are you’ll get it too. When you get it, the symptoms are no different from flu symptoms so you will think you have caught the flu. If someone else sneezed or coughed and somehow their saliva flew over to you, you might get it too. The main point is: don’t try to get saliva from a mono infected person. No sharing straws or forks, spoons, etc.

When someone has mononucleosis, he or she will feel very tired; have fever, sore throat, no appetite, headaches, and swollen glands, skin rash, and abdominal pain. Hey, these symptoms are like those we have when we are ill with normal illnesses like flu or an allergy to something. Who would have thought that all this is have something to do with a kissing disease??? I’ve never heard of mononucleosis until now.

Great, there is NO cure for this disease. Nevertheless, it will go away by itself if you take extra good care of yourself when you were sick. A virus causes mono and you’ll get better in 3 to 4 weeks. No school, no sports, no vigorous physical activities, and yes, definitely NO kissing!

However, don’t give up kissing just because of this disease. Just take good care of your health. Remember to brush your teeth, chew some gum, eat an apple, take extreme good care of your personal hygiene, then it should not be a problem. See a doctor if you feel you have this disease.

Anyway, wanna find out if you are a good kisser? Take this test and check your results. I found out all the information above from Teenshealth.

All about kissing

How does a kiss really work? When was the last time you kissed someone be it your mom, dad, sis, bro, boyfriend, nephew, niece or anybody? Why do you kiss in the first place? To show how much you love them? To show affection? Is it their birthday or your anniversary? Or just for the fun of it?

A kiss is simple yet it conveys a thousand meanings. But before you kiss, make sure you’ve brushed your teeth and make sure your mouth doesn’t stink of anything. Oh yeah, it is horrible to have someone smelly kiss you. You do want to leave a lasting impression, don’t you?

Okay, I just realized it. We are not allowed to kiss in public! So what am I doing by writing a post on kissing??? Never mind. It’s for your own good and also for the sake of the people you are kissing. =)

I typed in ‘kissing’ in Yahoo’s search engine and clicked on the first link. Here’s what I’ve found out.

• Eat an apple before kissing somebody. It helps to freshen your breath.
  
• To get a boy to kiss you, you have to dress well, smile and be friendly, and flirt. (Boys can be shy. So I don’t think he’ll kiss you immediately though. Maybe after a few months!)
  
• If you want to learn about French kissing, there are a couple of diagrams showing what happens during a French kiss.
  

This kissing website is full of ways to try to get its visitors to buy their DVD on kissing so I left it and went to another website.

Last year, when I was simply going through my friend’s pocket dictionary for fun, I came across one interesting word. Osculation. Osculation is kissing! It is the scientific word for kissing. Cool, huh? So, my friend and I tried to sound articulate by using this new word we learnt.

I am osculating.
I would like to osculate you.

Then, we stopped because we realized we had to study. =D

Wikipedia is a real fine online encyclopedia. Everything is in it! You can find out everything you want in the world in this website. Okay, I’m exaggerating but to me, it’s almost true.

Here are the websites that I’ve visited:
www.kissing.com
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kiss
http://www.howtokiss.info/

I hope I don’t get ban or anything just for writing about kissing. I’m not using the F word or anything so hopefully, I won’t get ban. Kissing is so nice! I just want to share it that’s all. It’s really sweet to see old couples kissing even if it’s just a peck and holding hands while crossing the road. This shows that even when they are old, they still care to show affection for each other. Don’t you wish you’re like that when you’re old with your loved one? =)

~Kisses are like tears, the only real ones are the ones you can't hold back.~ (Author Unknown)

What Do Guys Look For In A Girl?

Let's assume this is Part 2 from my previous post, 'Boyfriends & Girlfriends'. =)

So the question now is what do the hottie guys out there really look for in a girl?

Hot body? Sweet smile? Her sense of humour? Size of her boobs? Those sexy legs? Oh she's so damn intelligent? Worse still, money??? I'm wondering myself too.

Most guys will say they look for a girl who is kind, honest, caring, etc. It's the beauty inside that matters, not the outside. Hmmm...is it really true? What do you guys say? But some guys readily admit that the first thing they notice about a girl is her looks, face and all. My friend once told me that the guy would look at the girl's face first, and then only checks out her physical appearance.

If the girl is some drop dead gorgeous beauty, I guess it does not really matter if she's dumb or not. They would not have to spend time talking about intelligent topics. They can just stare or make out with each other. Nah, I don't think these kinds of relationships may last long. Unless both of you have things in common then it can possibly work out.

When you walk in malls or anywhere else, you can see couples that seem to be completely in love with other. If you look closely at them, they are not potential contestants for a beauty pageant. But the boyfriend/husband is giving her his full attention, oblivious to the other sexier, more beautiful girls around him. The girl is really lucky then.

Even if you look like Miss World, it doesn't mean you will find your true love easily. In fact, it's even harder to find your one true love. These guys might only be going out with you cos you've got the looks. They are infatuated or blinded by your beauty. But if both of you genuinely love each other, then lucky you! =D

I’m a girl, not a guy. So, these are my opinions only. Do correct me if I’m wrong in any of my statements above. Thank you.

~Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.~
(Kahlil Gibran)

Boyfriends & Girlfriends

2 years ago, if I ever saw a couple walking past, holding hands ever so tightly, looking at each other in a sickening lovey-dovey way, I'd almost throw up. =D Like I said, almost. Haha! Why? Cos I was a single and independent young lady, that's why. I didn't know why couples are like that. I didn't understand in the first place. Until I joined the club.

I knew my guy since we were kids. Around 7. We attended Sunday school together. Well, not exactly together. We were in the same class that's all and we barely talked.

Fast forward many years later. We only started to know each other better when we were 17. Guess the sparks flew then. =)

What's it like having a boyfriend? Does it feel like walking on air? Do you feel happy, joyful and dreamy all the time? Do you always think of him no matter what you are doing at the moment?

Different people may have different answers.

There are other questions that people in relationships may ask themselves too. Like: Does he really love me? Does he mean it when he says I Love You? What if he liked someone else? Was he staring at that girl? Does he think of other girls?

You may think that life is easier when you are in a relationship. Truthfully, things get more complicated. It seems beautiful in the beginning, all bed of roses and everything. Once you get to know each other better, it either gets better or worse. Both of you need to communicate, that's the most important thing in a relationship. Communication. Without it, nothing will ever work out between the both of you.

Talk to each other. Tell them what you like about them. Tell them what you don't like about them. Don't suffer in silence and expect your other half to know what's wrong with you. Guys can be so blur at times. Sorry, guys..... =/ You need to tell him! And I'm sure they would want you to tell them if anything was wrong too. They'll appreciate it.

Spend time with each other and get to know each other. I'm stressing on communication here.

Giving each other space to do what you and he want to do is also advisable. You can't be together all the time. You might get sick of each other. =D In fact, both of you will miss each other's company and when both of you are together again, it'll be lovely.

Anyway, I'm sure there are other aspects to consider in a successful relationship too. I can't think of others now. If you have anything to add in, feel free to share with others.

Now, I don't almost throw up when I see other couples. I even smile when I see couples sedang berdating (dating) at the field in front of my home. I don't spy on them though!

Good night everybody.

~Make love, not war~