Thursday, January 24, 2008

It's All So Complicated!

How would you define love? L-O-V-E.

What's love anyway?

You know, I'm really amazed at the old couples whom I see at the mall, the market, crossing the road, etc. How do they stay together for so long? It's even sweeter if they are holding hands when crossing the road, for example. I smile to myself when I see them. Then, I think if I'll ever have someone's hand to hold when I'm old myself. Truly, it's amazing.

What's their secret? How can they live with each other for so many years? I'm sure there are some fights here and there but they do make up, don't they? However, these days, divorce seems to be the only answer when the husband and wife fight. Why do they fight in the first place? Are they sick of each other? Are they bored of each other already? What's missing in their marriage?

Why am I writing this post? Well, I'm just thinking over about my relationship with my guy. We've been together for more than 2 years. But now I feel something different. I don't feel the love that he's always shown me last time. Are we falling apart or am I just being plain paranoid? I can't sleep thinking about this.

I know I shouldn't waste too much time pondering over this. Studies first, studies first, studies first, I keep telling myself. But, honestly, it's difficult!!!


heiresschild said...

any type of relationship takes work, some more than others. people just have to be willing to put the time in just as they do on their jobs.

people will almost have a car accident to get to work on time, then stay overtime, then come home too tired and irritated to communicate with the one(s) that matter the most.

there has to be balance, and our personal relationships have to be deemed as important as the job or whatever else is monopolizing our time.

relationships also involve mutual respect and friendship. again, it takes work, but it should be an enjoyable work. i think people today are just too lazy to even work on their personal relationships, and it's easier to just up and quit and move on.

our parents experienced some of the same hardships, etc., but back then people stuck it out. of course, there were exceptions, but today, it's the norm. very, very sad. good post. i saw your comment on Ingrid's blog, and followed the link.

Miss Positive said...

heiresschild: Hi, yeah, it's sad that now people are breaking up more easily. I'm amazed at my parents and other older couples who remained with each other after all those years.

When I read the newspaper about straying spouses, I feel sad and as if there is no hope for true, real love anymore! It is true that it takes two to tango, therefore, it takes two to make a relationship work.

Thanks for your comment!